Why the Trauma Label Keeps You Stuck
Things start going well, and then you find a way to burn it down. And you have got the diagnosis loaded and ready. Self-sabotage. My trauma response. That is just how I am wired. I...
Disputation moves applied to real moments. Where is the evidence. Who told you that. Would it hold up in court.
Things start going well, and then you find a way to burn it down. And you have got the diagnosis loaded and ready. Self-sabotage. My trauma response. That is just how I am wired. I...
Almost everything I teach is about clearing wreckage. The irrational demand running you, the lie you filed as a kid, the wound nobody treated. That work matters. It is also not the destination. Clearing wreckage...
You went once. Maybe twice. You sat in the chair, you answered the questions, you walked out, and nothing was different. So you filed it away. Therapy does not work. Or the version you do...
For most of my life, I had two settings. Angry, or numb. Rage, or gone. And nothing in between. I did not even know a middle was supposed to be there. Both of those are...
You have heard the term imposter syndrome. I do not like it. It is massively overused, and the word syndrome is doing you a disservice, because a syndrome is something you have. This is something...
You can be standing in the middle of something good, a good woman, a good life, work you are proud of, and still feel like you do not belong in it. Like you would stain...
You were taught that the pause is for cooling off. Count to ten. Walk it off. That is not what the pause is for, and treating it that way is why it keeps failing you....
People assume the job damages you with the worst call you ever ran. The body. The scene you cannot unsee. That is not where the real wear comes from. It comes from the betrayal. The...
I was lifting this morning when I glanced across the gym and saw a man raise a dark water bottle to his chin with both hands. In that instant, I was somewhere else. Years back,...
Marcus Aurelius kept a journal every night. He did not write it to feel better about his day. He interrogated his own thinking the way a commander debriefs an operation. What impression did I fuse...