Why the Trauma Label Keeps You Stuck
Things start going well, and then you find a way to burn it down. And you have got the diagnosis loaded and ready. Self-sabotage. My trauma response. That is just how I am wired. I...
Peer support programs, critical incident response, and the clinical thinking underneath both. Written for the people who do the work and for the commanders who answer for them.
Things start going well, and then you find a way to burn it down. And you have got the diagnosis loaded and ready. Self-sabotage. My trauma response. That is just how I am wired. I...
Almost everything I teach is about clearing wreckage. The irrational demand running you, the lie you filed as a kid, the wound nobody treated. That work matters. It is also not the destination. Clearing wreckage...
You have walked into things most people could not be told about without flinching. And you will do almost anything to get out of twenty minutes of discomfort at your own kitchen table. That is...
You went once. Maybe twice. You sat in the chair, you answered the questions, you walked out, and nothing was different. So you filed it away. Therapy does not work. Or the version you do...
For most of my life, I had two settings. Angry, or numb. Rage, or gone. And nothing in between. I did not even know a middle was supposed to be there. Both of those are...
You have heard the term imposter syndrome. I do not like it. It is massively overused, and the word syndrome is doing you a disservice, because a syndrome is something you have. This is something...
You signed up to lead your people from the front. To take care of them. I do not think anybody told you the rest of the job. The resignation letters from good officers you spent...
You find it easier to carry everyone else's weight than to let one person carry anything of yours. The people who love you get the managed version of you. They never get the full weight....
You can be standing in the middle of something good, a good woman, a good life, work you are proud of, and still feel like you do not belong in it. Like you would stain...
You are the one who says you are good when you are not. You turn down the help. You keep a running tab of what you owe everybody, and you never once count what you...